Single Mums

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Timothy John

A few weeks back I did a post on adopting as a single dad. In the case of single mothers there are more countries that are open to allowing adoptions by single mums. Just as Reece’s Rainbow has a page for the children that can be adopted by single dads there is also a page that is especially for single mums. http://reecesrainbow.org/category/singlemoms There are a number of children on this page, ranging from young children to those kids who are about to age out. Also, individual children and sibling groups.

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Kenzie

With Mother’s day coming up in a week, here in Canada, I thought it would be right to showcase some kids who don’t have a mum. They aren’t able to make a fun little card, or cover themselves in glue trying to make something for mum. They aren’t going to wake up at some ungodly hour and run into their mum’s room to plant wet kisses on their mum’s face. They also don’t get those day to day moments of cuddling in their mother’s lap and listening to a story or watching a movie. They don’t get to hold their mum’s hand as they cross the street and know that she loves them. They don’t get to be held and allowed to cry when they hurt themselves or when they have had a bad dream.

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Charlie

A mum is so important and I know I wouldn’t be who I am without my mum. Sure we’ve had fights and sure there are times when we don’t get along but I love her with all my heart. She is so supportive and even when she disagrees with a decision that I’ve made I can trust that she is still there loving me and there for me. I can’t imagine what it’s like to not have a mum and I am cut to the heart about the idea that there are kids who will never know the love of a mum or dad.

Please pray with me for the kids who are still waiting for a mum, dad, or both. Kids who are waiting or have given up hope or have never known a life where they have a mum or dad who loves them. Thank you.

Dear Lord,

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Elsie and Evie

My sister told me the other night that she would never have a family and while that is not true she still struggles with the fear of what she was told. She struggles to understand that a mum and dad can love her and won’t hurt her or leave her. Lord, I pray for other children around the world who think that they will never get a family or who think that family means someone who hurts you or the people you love. Please give these kids hope and strength. Please show them that they are wrong. Please get kids out of bad places and into families who love them.

So many of Your children have come from bad places. We didn’t know what it meant to be loved or how to love or how to accept love and yet You chose to love us. Please help

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Jais

these kids to also know what it means to be loved, supported, and seen as important. Please help them to have a new future. A future where they can feel safe and know that they have a family – a family that cares and a family that loves.

Lord, in order for these kids to have families people have to step forward. They have to choose to be that family that loves and cares. That family that supports and protects. That family that loves even when the children push back against the love in fear. Please bring people forward and equip them to be these families.

In Your name I pray.

For Your glory and Your kingdom,

Amen.

 

 

 

Remember to Celebrate!!!

 

Yay! It is always a good time to celebrate when a child comes home. So far this year twelve children who were listen on Reece’s Rainbow have been welcomed into families and are now home with them. They are now sons and daughters!!!

It can be easy to get lost in the overwhelming numbers of children still waiting for families but seeing those that have come home gives cause to celebrate and reminds all of us advocating and praying that there is hope. Every child counts and every child that comes home has a new life before them.

Anna Mae, Amos, Daisy, Lee, Lanikai, Audrey, Violet, Domenic, Naomi, Ryan, Dex, and Linny all have new names, new identities, and a new hope for the future.They have a new country to call home along with their birth countries of China, Ukraine, and Vietnam. Another country to love, another place that will shape them into who they will be in the future.

This doesn’t mean that it’s going to be easy. Oh no! The hard work has just begun. The kids and the families have to learn what their new “normal” is. There will be tears, there will be fits, there will be bruises, and there will be times in which everyone will not know if they can go on.

But! That’s not the whole story. There will also be, hugs, kisses, laughs, and some amazing memories that are made. After a child is adopted prayer is so vitally important. Will you pray with me?

Dear Lord,

Thank you for every single one of these children who have come home in the last month. I pray that many more children will be welcomed into families this year. Please make this year an amazing year where you show Your mighty hand in families’ lives. Bringing families together from across the globe.

As the new families learn new things about each other everyday and transverse the rocky road of being an adopted family I pray that You will infuse joy into their homes. Please give them patience for when times are tough. Please help them to see the small moments of calm and peace among the storm. Help them to see the growth that happens everyday and enjoy the small moments.

I pray that You will use these families to influence others and help them see what adoption is. And that by watching others will also see how You have acted in our lives. How You have adopted us. How You chose us and loved us.

Thank you for these families and thank you for my family. For my biological siblings and my adopted siblings and my siblings made through the sacrifice of Christ.

For Your glory and Your kingdom!

Amen.

The hard side of things…

The voices of these children call out but unfortunately their calls for a mum and dad will never be heard. These children have aged out and will never get to experience a family. It’s not fair and it’s not right but it is the reality that they have to face. On Reece’s Rainbow there is a page (it has now had to spread to two pages) dedicated to the kids that have aged out, there are over 75 kids listed and that is only those who have been listed on Reece’s Rainbow. Many more children everyday all over the world age out and lose that hope of having a family. http://reecesrainbow.org/category/aged-out

It’s not just ageing out that causes children to lose the chance of a family. Some kids can not hold onto life and they die. Children lose their friends to death and some adoptive parents cannot get to their children fast enough before the child is lost without knowing the love of a family. This year alone 11 children who have been listed with Reece’s Rainbow are no longer with us. http://reecesrainbow.org/background/in-loving-memory

This is why I fight. This is why I pray. This is why I have chosen to do a blog. This is why I have chosen to study Theology with my thesis being on the doctrine of adoption. This is why I want to pursue a PhD in Theology with the focus on the doctrine of adoption and how our understanding of being adopted by God influences and drives us to fight for those without families.

I see these faces and I see my brothers and sisters. They could have aged out – my brother was 10 when he was adopted, not many people chose a 10 year old boy. They could have died – my littlest brother was very sick and on lots of medication, he was constantly coughing and his gums were whiter than his teeth.

The fight is real and it is worth it. Adoption is not easy but it is so important and so necessary. Please pray with me.

Dear Lord.

Our hearts break for these children. Please help us to never grow numb to the pain that is felt when even one child loses the chance of a family. Please help us to keep fighting and praying and advocating for the children who do wait.

For those that do age out please show Your grace to them and hold them close. Please give them a future and a hope. Please direct them to You and to those that can show them a future and can love them.

For those children that are no longer with us please comfort their friends and the nannies that cared for them. If a family was coming for them but was not able to bring them home please comfort the family as they morn the lose of their child that they never got to hold.

May You show Your power and love and righteousness in the lives of children who are without families and bring them into the loving arms of those that You call to adopt. May those that You have not called to adopt respond to Your call to support those who are and have adopted and to cry out for those that have no voice.

In Your holy and glorious name we pray,

Amen.

Giving it another shot

 

So it has been almost a year since I last posted and honestly that’s not acceptable.

I have begun my Master of Arts in Theology (yay!) but I do not want that to stop me from continuing my prayer blog. Therefore, I am creating a new goal for myself. I am going to endeavor to post a prayer for a child in waiting every Sunday.

Here’s to new beginnings!

Dear Lord,

You have placed a burden upon my heart for those children who are without families. For the children forgotten by the world but so loved by You. You have created them and have chosen them to be apart of this world. A world that would not be the same without them.

Lord I pray that Your grace would abound over them and that Your steadfast love would surround them. I pray for these children, please bring them into homes and families that will show them of Your holiness, justice, grace, and mercy. That they may begin to heal and that they will be able to grow into the men and woman that You have created them to be.

For Your glory and Your Kingdom I pray.

Amen.

Birthdays!

Today is my sister’s 18th birthday! It is so cool. I am so proud of everything that she has already accomplished in her life and I am so excited to see what God is calling her to in the future.

This past week has also marked my mum’s birthday as well. There has been so much celebration in my house as we let these two AMAZING ladies know just how special they are to us.

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I will continue to let the birthday boy/girl/mum/dad chose who I will pray for on their birthday as a way to celebrate their life and the lives of children who still wait for a family.

My sister chose Elize: http://reecesrainbow.org/98787/elize

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Elize is an amazing young lady who despite working through the challenges of being deaf loves to communicate and does very well in school. Wiggles (my sister) would love to see this young lady at home with her family and have some awesome conversations with her new mum and dad!

My mum decided to chose the sibling group of Aaron, Abby, Accel, and Addy. http://reecesrainbow.org/99505/4-siblings

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These four kids are strongly attached to one another and as my mum says “all kids need mums and dads to love them. There are enough losses in adoption without kids having to lose their siblings as well.”  As a mother who adopted a sibling group of four my mum has seen how hard it is to adopt a sibling group but also the joys that come along with it.

Dear Lord,

Thank You for my Mum and for Wiggles. Thank You for putting such amazing people into my life. I pray that as we celebrate their birthdays they will see in us a small glimpse of the love that You have for them.

Lord, I also pray for Elize. Thank You so much for this young lady. Please bring forward a family for her. Thank You that she is out going and loves to communicate with others. I pray that this will help her to attach to the family that You have chosen for her.

I pray also for the four children that wait together. Please bring a family forward so that they can stay together. Please give the family the strength to help all of them grow into the people You have chosen for them and also help the children know that they are all important and all matter.

In Your name I pray,

Amen.

 

 

 

YAY!!!

My brother, Warrior, has come back from his testing for brittle bone disease with the all clear! Yay!!!

But…

There is always a but!

It is believed that Warrior was born with both his elbows dislocated. Unfortunately they were not fixed and so even now they are still dislocated but due to the damage done over such a long period of time the doctors cannot put the ulna into its correct place in the elbow.

However, the doctor was very impressed with Warrior’s range of motion in his elbows and commended all the swimming he is doing and how it is such good physiotherapy for him and that he should continue!

Though my brother does not have brittle bone disease other children who are waiting for their families do. Children like:

Miley http://reecesrainbow.org/94937/miley

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and Patrick (who happens to be the same age as Warrior) http://reecesrainbow.org/47712/patrick

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Dear Lord,

Thank you that Warrior does not have brittle bone disease. Thank you that his swimming, that he loves, has helped him stretch out his elbows and regain movement in them.

Lord, I am upset by the fact that there are children without families who live with this disease. They are strong beautiful children but even strong children need a mum and dad to snuggle with when they are getting another cast. They need gentle arms to wrap around them when their bones break and they hurt.

Lord, please bring families forward for these children. Don’t let these kids slip through the cracks and miss out on the wonder that is family.

Thank you so much for my family, for my brother, and for children like Miley and Patrick.

In your name I pray,

Amen.

Struth!!!!

Far out! I have not written in ages. I am sorry. I guess school takes over more than I realize.

So has any big thing happened since I last wrote? Yes! Four things.

  1. My cousin died from a major asthma attack. She will be very missed.
  2.  The amazing coach that gave up his retirement (and last year of his life) to coach us (Varsity swimming) when we did not have a coach has died. I feel so blessed that I got to know him and train under him. It was such a fun year! He too will be sorely missed.

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3.On a happier note Warrior has an orthopedic appointment (after waiting over a year!) to determine if the anomaly noted on an x-ray is a form of brittle bone disease.

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4. The All Blacks are in the Final of the world cup!!!!!!! YAY

Dear Lord,

thank you for the amazing lives of my cousin and of my former coach. Thank you that Warrior has an appointment and thank you for helping the All Blacks to more forward in the World Cup.

May you be praised!

Amen