Single Mums

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Timothy John

A few weeks back I did a post on adopting as a single dad. In the case of single mothers there are more countries that are open to allowing adoptions by single mums. Just as Reece’s Rainbow has a page for the children that can be adopted by single dads there is also a page that is especially for single mums. http://reecesrainbow.org/category/singlemoms There are a number of children on this page, ranging from young children to those kids who are about to age out. Also, individual children and sibling groups.

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Kenzie

With Mother’s day coming up in a week, here in Canada, I thought it would be right to showcase some kids who don’t have a mum. They aren’t able to make a fun little card, or cover themselves in glue trying to make something for mum. They aren’t going to wake up at some ungodly hour and run into their mum’s room to plant wet kisses on their mum’s face. They also don’t get those day to day moments of cuddling in their mother’s lap and listening to a story or watching a movie. They don’t get to hold their mum’s hand as they cross the street and know that she loves them. They don’t get to be held and allowed to cry when they hurt themselves or when they have had a bad dream.

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Charlie

A mum is so important and I know I wouldn’t be who I am without my mum. Sure we’ve had fights and sure there are times when we don’t get along but I love her with all my heart. She is so supportive and even when she disagrees with a decision that I’ve made I can trust that she is still there loving me and there for me. I can’t imagine what it’s like to not have a mum and I am cut to the heart about the idea that there are kids who will never know the love of a mum or dad.

Please pray with me for the kids who are still waiting for a mum, dad, or both. Kids who are waiting or have given up hope or have never known a life where they have a mum or dad who loves them. Thank you.

Dear Lord,

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Elsie and Evie

My sister told me the other night that she would never have a family and while that is not true she still struggles with the fear of what she was told. She struggles to understand that a mum and dad can love her and won’t hurt her or leave her. Lord, I pray for other children around the world who think that they will never get a family or who think that family means someone who hurts you or the people you love. Please give these kids hope and strength. Please show them that they are wrong. Please get kids out of bad places and into families who love them.

So many of Your children have come from bad places. We didn’t know what it meant to be loved or how to love or how to accept love and yet You chose to love us. Please help

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Jais

these kids to also know what it means to be loved, supported, and seen as important. Please help them to have a new future. A future where they can feel safe and know that they have a family – a family that cares and a family that loves.

Lord, in order for these kids to have families people have to step forward. They have to choose to be that family that loves and cares. That family that supports and protects. That family that loves even when the children push back against the love in fear. Please bring people forward and equip them to be these families.

In Your name I pray.

For Your glory and Your kingdom,

Amen.

 

 

 

You Say You’re Pro-Life – But Are You Really?

I think this post below goes well with the thoughts that I was speaking to on Monday.

I agree wholeheartedly – Christians are called to be lights, to show life. Life encompasses more than just birth. Life includes every part of one’s existence, both physical and spiritual. Jesus brought life – He brought life in the spiritual sense, bringing back those who believe from spiritual death to life. But He also brought physical life – Jesus healed people!

Adoption is apart of the Christian’s call to be the light and salt in the world. Adoption is hard but fighting for life is hard. Jesus, in order to bring life, died. He endured great suffering; He was persecuted, ridiculed, and ultimately was sentenced to the death reserved for the lowest of the low, for insurrectionists and the like.

As a Christian I am called to be continually set apart for God (it is the process of sanctification). This setting apart does not mean that I (or any other Christian) am to shun the world and everything in it. Rather, I am to live in the world – to be the light and life of Christ to those around me.

Humanity was created as BOTH physical and spiritual beings. There cannot be a disconnect between the physical and spiritual. Christians are call to be light and life to both the physical and spiritual aspects of others.

Adoption speaks to both of these points – the physical and the spiritual. Physically, for many children, adoption brings life. The kids now have access to medical care, food, schooling, and family. Adoption also gives the children a chance at spiritual life. No one should force another to accept a belief system but through adoption the child has an opportunity to accept and hear the Christian message.

My siblings would never have been presented with who Christ is and what He has done if they had not been adopted. They would also have been physically so much more unhealthy. No one would have known one of my brothers has dislocated elbows since infancy, no one would have known of my sister’s dental issues or her struggles with sensory processing, no one would have known about my brother’s dairy allergy. Health wise they are so much better! I see them today and I see new life flowing through them.

Just look at this little guy. Even in the first photo he had changed so much from the day my parents picked him up from the orphanage. But the change just a few months later is amazing!

It is the Christian’s call to bring life. There are so many ways that God calls us to bring life. God has created us all differently and those differences are so beautiful! There is a need for us to embrace these differences and to use them to bring life. There are so many ways that adoption can be supported. Use your differences, use your uniqueness, use your gifts to support adoption and to bring life.

To Him be the Glory!

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I don’t do politics. Politics is ugly. Especially this election, yeesh. It seems, that one of the major divisive talking points is the pro-choice vs pro-life argument. The more and more rhetoric I hear, I want to ask you (challenge you even) Pro-Lifer, are you truly truly pro-life or are you simply anti-abortion?

What happens when this child you fought to be born needs routine well checks and immunizations and their parents need help affording it? What happens when the child turns out to have more complex medical needs like Down Syndrome, congenital heart defect, or osteogenesis imperfecta? Are you supporting programs like Medicaid? Are you supporting or contributing to local doctors who provide free or reduced services for low income families? You should be. Access to healthcare greatly increases one’s quality of life. And you said you were pro life.

What happens when this child you fought to be born grows into a toddler…

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The hard side of things…

The voices of these children call out but unfortunately their calls for a mum and dad will never be heard. These children have aged out and will never get to experience a family. It’s not fair and it’s not right but it is the reality that they have to face. On Reece’s Rainbow there is a page (it has now had to spread to two pages) dedicated to the kids that have aged out, there are over 75 kids listed and that is only those who have been listed on Reece’s Rainbow. Many more children everyday all over the world age out and lose that hope of having a family. http://reecesrainbow.org/category/aged-out

It’s not just ageing out that causes children to lose the chance of a family. Some kids can not hold onto life and they die. Children lose their friends to death and some adoptive parents cannot get to their children fast enough before the child is lost without knowing the love of a family. This year alone 11 children who have been listed with Reece’s Rainbow are no longer with us. http://reecesrainbow.org/background/in-loving-memory

This is why I fight. This is why I pray. This is why I have chosen to do a blog. This is why I have chosen to study Theology with my thesis being on the doctrine of adoption. This is why I want to pursue a PhD in Theology with the focus on the doctrine of adoption and how our understanding of being adopted by God influences and drives us to fight for those without families.

I see these faces and I see my brothers and sisters. They could have aged out – my brother was 10 when he was adopted, not many people chose a 10 year old boy. They could have died – my littlest brother was very sick and on lots of medication, he was constantly coughing and his gums were whiter than his teeth.

The fight is real and it is worth it. Adoption is not easy but it is so important and so necessary. Please pray with me.

Dear Lord.

Our hearts break for these children. Please help us to never grow numb to the pain that is felt when even one child loses the chance of a family. Please help us to keep fighting and praying and advocating for the children who do wait.

For those that do age out please show Your grace to them and hold them close. Please give them a future and a hope. Please direct them to You and to those that can show them a future and can love them.

For those children that are no longer with us please comfort their friends and the nannies that cared for them. If a family was coming for them but was not able to bring them home please comfort the family as they morn the lose of their child that they never got to hold.

May You show Your power and love and righteousness in the lives of children who are without families and bring them into the loving arms of those that You call to adopt. May those that You have not called to adopt respond to Your call to support those who are and have adopted and to cry out for those that have no voice.

In Your holy and glorious name we pray,

Amen.

Family Day!!!!!!!

This week my family celebrated Family Day. Family Day is the day that we celebrate becoming a family. Some people call it gotcha day but we have chosen to call it family day because it is about the whole family coming together as a new unit.  

 
Dear Lord, 

Thank you for all the children who have come home and are able to celebrate their new lives with their families. 

Lord, I thank you for the children who have families coming for them. I pray that their hearts will be ready for the HUGE change that will happen.

I also pray for those children that do not have a family. Lord, please give them comfort and love as they live without a family. Please call someone to be their family.

Thank you Lord for families!

In Jesus’ Holy and Glorious name,

Amen.